«A healthy relationship will never require you to sacrifice your friends, your dreams or your dignity» Mandy Hale
We can want different things in life, be rich or lead a more modest life, be ambitious and bold, but when it comes to Love, we should not pretend we don’t need it in our life… Love makes us smile more, be more open, more brave, give us wings and make us change our selfish ways.
In order to lead a happy life, we should be aware that giving up on things that are dear to us for Love will only make us lose our focus.
Toxic relationships will make us unhappy, lose self esteem and start blaming others for our own despair. In this toxic relationships we will start neglecting our personal time, not seeing our family and friends, will let go our dreams, our joy will fade away and we will put ourselves on hold just to meet the other’s wants and needs. Love is not only about giving, but, also, about receiving and enjoying who we are. When the balance between giving and receiving is lost, we will find ourselves in a toxic environment and there will be time to get away from it.
So, let’s find out together what are some of the best principles to keep in mind in order to have healthy love relationships and not stay captive in relationships which do us harm.
1. Personal time
This is what I call «my me time»: the time to rest, to read a book or an article, to learn something new, to follow a course, to do the sport activities we like.
2. Friends
Honest, healthy friendships will resist in time and in difficult moments; they should not be given up, should be cherished and cared because they are part of our development, they challenge us to be better and are happy for our success, advising us when needed.
3. Family
Things come and go, but the family is here to stay in good and bad times.
4. Our dreams
Someone who laughs at our dreams and makes jokes it’s clearly not the best person for us, we need someone who believes in us and it’s our biggest fan.
5. Our joy and enthusiasm
In a healthy relationship we feel understood; sharing our creativity in doing fun things together with the significant other should be a part of the everyday life. Let yourself be discovered and discover a world in the other person’s eyes.
6. Our wants and needs
We have to be able to express what we want and need in a relationship and set clear boundaries otherwise we won’t be happy in the long term.
